It started with two
and then there was three...
If you are a mother I am sure you have heard this statement before, "You're life completely changes", and that it does. But it changes in the most amazing ways possible. One major change is the amount of quality time you get to spend with your hunny and by hunny I mean your significant other. By the time I am done changing diapers, wiping boogies, making dinner and finishing everything else on my to do list, which is usually rather long, I just want to plop into bed and shut those tired eyes! No seriously most nights I am in bed by 9:00 pm. So when do Jesse and I get to spend that quality time together that I speak of? Honestly, I don't know! I haven't quite figured that out yet. But what I do know is this "time" together needs to become a priority. Date nights are as important now as they were before. If not more important. Most if not all my attention is now directed toward my little one, which must be tough on my man. I can probably count on one hand the number of times we have went out together since the birth of Aidan. Actually I know I can, three times to be exact! Yup in the last 5 1/2 months Jesse and I have been out together three times! Our first outing was for my birthday and we met up with some other friends. The next two times, one being this past Saturday, we attended birthday parties. So were we really alone.....nope. So how many times have we been out alone, just the two of us, for the night? A whopping zero! Crazy right! We have run out to a few stores together but have yet to have a night out together where it was just the two or us enjoying each other and only each others company. This will change, I know that but it's definitely tough trying to find time for each other with all the added responsibilities that comes with having a child.
I have heard time and time again, "You need to get out", "You need to spend time together" and yes I agree but where do we find that time. This is the challenging part. Jesse wakes up when I leave for work. By the time he gets home at night I am half asleep on the couch so needless to say we don't get to spend much time together daily. On the weekends I have so much stuff that needs to get done that my head could spin right off so I will say it again...where do we find the time? I feel terrible saying this. Saying I don't have time to spend with my hubby to be. Life is just crazy right now, crazy good but crazy. Date nights will happen again. I see them in the future. But right now Aidan needs us more than we need "date nights". So the moral of this story, it really wasn't a story but whatever, is we still love each other even if our time together is limited these days. It is tough to spend "alone time" together but extremely important not to neglect our relationship. I am going to predict that we will have a date night by the end of February! And what do you think we will probably end up doing on that date night? Talk about our perfect baby boy, guaranteed. Oh parenthood!
Was it easy finding time to spend with your loved one after the birth of your child? Or did you/do you find it as challenging as I do?
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